What is a tool? That’s what I want to talk about this week. I think of everything around us as a tool. As part of the CHD community I know that technology is definitely a tool. Technology has allowed us access to new surgical techniques and devices that have allowed many of us to live longer more productive lives. Experience is also a tool. Simple trial and error has answered many questions for my generation and the ones that are coming up now. But how about our own personal tools. The ones we can use to make our lives better on a daily basis. For me these sort of fall into two categories. Things that help me physically and those that help me mentally. I think that all of these actually do both but, I tend to compartmentalize and always have. We each have our own personal set of tools that help us cope with life.


The big tool that helps physically is of course to some an eight letter swear word, it’s exercise. For me it’s a lot of walking and some yoga. I try to do one or both everyday. I think that by tiring out the body I sleep much better at night as well as keeping the heart muscle in shape or making it even better. It’s an important tool we should all be using to help us fight our defects. Another one is massage or acupuncture although I don’t know too much about acupuncture I have heard many good things about it. It appears to improve circulation and relax the muscles. I do know a little about massage. My regular hospital offers it as a free service when you’re a patient. I always take advantage of this. It is super relaxing and after wards you feel invigorated and ready to face things. Often it is the only thing, not counting drugs that helps me sleep.


The mental stuff is a little more ethereal. I think that the tools that work are different for each of us. Part of that is due to our personal lives and experiences. For some prayer may help to center them and help to elevate their mood. Others it might be meditation, I fall into this group. I find that meditating really helps me sort of get my head on straight and to see the up side of a situation. Also I find that keeping busy helps. I have a lot of hobbies especially photography. It can take up a lot of time. Not only the actual taking of pictures but the post processing. Keeping your mind busy with things you enjoy is a great tool to help you climb out of a slump. What I’m saying is find something that you enjoy doing and make it a point to do it as often as possible. The last thing that really seems to help mentally is to talk about things that are bothering you. This can be with a professional or a friend either one. I tend to talk to friends about things. It works well for me. I usually know what I’m going to do about a problem already but, getting things out and letting that anger, frustration and fear go is important. Holding it in just causes stress.


I hope that by seeing what tools I use to deal with my life it has helped you to figure out what will work for you in your life.


About jonmrjr

I am a 40 year old survivor of Congenital Heart Defects or CHD for short. This is not another blog about how I survived a heart attack. Congenital means born with. I have lived with this my whole life, as have many others. 1 in 125 babies are born with a CHD, it is the number one birth defect in the world. World wide it kills more children than all childhood Cancers combined. This is my story and how I live with CHD. My hope is to bring awareness to this condition and inspire others to chase their dreams as I do.

Posted on April 17, 2012, in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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